Couples Counselling & Relationship Therapy
Every relationship has its seasons — moments of ease and moments of strain. While some couples can navigate challenges and find their way back to connection, others feel stuck: isolated, unheard, or locked into patterns of conflict. Communication begins to falter, intimacy fades, and partners can start to feel more like opponents than allies.
At CUCUMBER, couples counselling is a space to slow down, listen differently, and rebuild a sense of emotional safety. We explore the patterns that keep you apart and support you both to reconnect with what brought you together.
Therapy is grounded in approaches that work experientially to shift patterns in real-time, helping you better understand one another’s needs, fears, and emotional signals.
We recognise that every couple is different — shaped by your histories, expectations, and evolving life together. With curiosity and care, we help you move toward a more secure, supportive, and fulfilling connection.
Please note: We do not offer couples therapy in relationships where violence is present.
Relationships are something we live in, not something we do.
It is the home base we return to so we can recharge.
Relationships are the very best of us, so when we feel they are being threatened, our entire nervous system moves into a threat response.
Couples often get stuck on the content level of communication. They think this is where their distress originates from, and if their partner would just listen and do something differently, as we’ve told them a hundred times, then everything would be fine. Or if their partner would just stop harassing them, trust them more, give them some space to breathe and stop making them feel worthless, then everything would be fine.
Often couples get stuck in this cycle of one person wanting more, leaning in and towards the other, while the other leans back, seeking some space and guarding against the other’s pursuit.
This dance of communication is the real culprit of a lot of couples distress.
Yes, communication skills are very important and a lot of people were not role modelled them successfully by their parents. This is a topic covered in couples counselling. But it’s not all about skills.
Yes, current conflict points are important, the content of someone’s distress is worthy of addressing. We talk about it. But it’s not just a cognitive exercise of problem solving.
Relationships are experiential, emotional, and, it’s in the word, relational.
Couples counselling is about healing the sense of togetherness, and addressing the things that cause tension on the attachment bond two people have to one another.
A couple who has a strong sense that their partner is present with them, cares for them, listens to them, wants them in their life, is attuned and responds to their needs, and loves them - well that couple can navigate difficult conversations.
They have trust in the strength of their bond.
Couples counselling helps heal the trust.